The Power Of A Helpmeet
By Joy Knepp
September 1, 2009
Hiya, all you Ladies,
Isn't it wonderful that God has assigned such a big job to us; to be ''AN HELPMEET''? I don't know 'bout you, but I feel pretty important when I think about that!! I wonder what the word ''helpmeet'' includes. (All of a sudden I'm feeling kinda small!)
I want to share with you ladies about the journey I've been on lately that has been very rewarding. You know how we THINK of good things about our husbands, but somehow we just never get around to saying it to them?? So often we think '' if we don't have anything bad to say, we don't say anything at all'', which is exactly the opposite of what we should do.
Well, I've been searching what the Bible has to say about it. James 3 talks a lot about the tongue, especially verses 10-12: ''Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? So can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.''
I've been trying to make a habit of thinking, before I say something to my husband, ''Is what I am getting ready to say going to build him up (BLESSING) or tear him down (CURSING)? Two places in Proverbs it says: ''It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.''
For way too many years I was a brawling woman!
Also Proverbs 31:11-12 says: ''The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.''
We need to search ourselves deeply; can our husbands TRUELY trust their hearts to us? Or are we too busy ''keeping them on the straight and narrow'' and ''cursing'' them? We need to remember that we can feel ever so righteous, but be ever so wrong!
I don't think we realize how much power we have over our husbands, either in a good way or a bad way, and ONLY when we are totally connected to God, can we exercise that power the right way.
My husband tells me that when I speak words of ''LIFE'' (BLESSING) to him, he wants to please me and do things with me. And I find that the more I say kind things to him, the more love I feel for him! It's kinda like the song, "Love isn't love, 'till you give it away''!
I know that, for some of us, the thought of doing this takes us out of our comfort zone, but, well, how much is our marriage worth to us? Do we want to stay at the level we're on, or do we want something even better? Doesn't the thought that we can make a difference in our marriages and therefore, for our children put a thrill in your heart?
If this is something you've never practiced before, make a goal that you will say ONE ''blessing'' to your husband and each child once a day 'till you've broken yourself in, and then, well, the sky's the limit!!!! There's SOOOOO many ''words of life'' waiting to be spoken!
No, we don't always do and say everything right, but Proverbs 24:16 tells what the difference is between a ''just'' man (or woman) and a wicked one. They both fall, but only the ''just'' riseth up again. Let's be ''risers''!!!
Until next time...
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